I am a Qualified BACP High Wycombe counsellor, I offer an integrative style of counselling. I always start working with clients in a person centered approach and this approach forms the foundation and essence of how I work, I offer the core conditions to build communication, psychological contact and maintain the therapeutic relationship. Keeping clients at the center of the process, trusting their actualising tendency to stir and move them forward. Carl Rogers said “It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried.” I trust my clients know what needs to be addressed and acknowledge the hidden implicit issues that may not currently be in their awareness. I work tenderly and gently with them to uncover these and any internalised conditions of worth, affirming, supporting and encouraging. Offering my clients opportunities to challenge themselves and explore the consequences of behavior.
Person Centered Counselling from a High Wycombe Counsellor
In conjunction with the core conditions, I offer clients a relationship formed verbally and non-verbally by communication of warmth and transparency, in the knowledge that If I am willing, to meet someone wherever they are, to be authentic, trusting my intuition and instincts then I have what I need. Carl Rogers “The relationship which I have found helpful is characterized by a sort of transparency on my part, in which my real feelings are evident; by an acceptance of this other person as a separate person with value in his own right; and by a deep empathic understanding which enables me to see his private world through his eyes.”
Transactional Analysis from a High Wycombe Counsellor
Is incorporated into my work when appropriate. I do this by discussing and exploring rather than being directive. I offering an opportunity to my clients to explore relational difficulties and choices by looking at transactions and I offer an explanation of the PAC model, and the drama triangle, whilst maintaining a person centered approach by exploring with my client and remaining in their frame of reference, giving my client autonomy at all times. I may refer back to the theory by asking if they can see what may have been going on in the relationship, but not giving them any interpretation.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) from a High Wycombe Counsellor
When cognitive distortions are evident I incorporate Cognitive Behavioral Therapy into my work, I do this by invitation to investigate thinking patterns and how they impact on feelings and behaviors. Collaboratively exploring, scaling feelings and thoughts out of 10 and then looking for evidence to support the theories, asking for alternative scenarios and then re-scale. I use an analogy of playing a DVD in their mind, being able to take the DVD out and change it for a different one, giving my clients a sense of they are in control of their thoughts and not the other way around. I talk about RATS (Rational automatic thoughts) needing to eat the NATS negative automatic thoughts. I offer breathing and mindfulness as an opportunity to defeat rumination of runaway thinking, to diminish anxiety and gain perspective on reality.
If verbal expression is problematic and if clients are willing, I work creatively, using flip charts, emotion cards, and painting, to facilitate communication.
Supervision in High Wycombe
Using Supervision and a willingness to explore and understand my own feelings, coupled with a fascination of every aspect of who we are, why we do what we do and think what we think, together with a thirst to grasp how my clients may encounter me, contributes greatly to my ability to offer empathic understanding to others.